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Spring “Break” Reading

Last week, I was thrilled to take my first Spring Break vacation in years to Fort Myers Beach, FL.  As my husband and I chose (as gluttons for punishment) to drive the 18 hours from Northern Indiana down there, I had time to read two books that for once, had no relation to school counseling.  Yet, I still found parallels.  Of course.

(Disclaimer:  I am not paid to endorse these books in any way, and all opinions are solely my own).

Hard Choices- Hillary Clinton
A fascinating look at international diplomacy and how painstaking it is to form, repair, and solidify relationships with world leaders in order to not only help the world, but preserve the United States’ interests as well.  Clinton speaks often about how “smart power” and strategies were necessary to repair broken systems from the Bush Administration and take diplomacy into a new era of compromise and foresight to increase global democracy.

I love how Clinton emphasizes how the power of planning, focus, and relationships can really result (albeit sometimes slowly) in drastic positive change.  As school counselors, while intentional in our work, we also rely on an element of faith that if we steer the course and put “first things first”, that broad powerful systemic change can and will happen.  Plus, I love Clinton’s stories of going into cities on her travels to personally meet with students, children, and citizens.  Moral of those stories- don’t stay in your office.  Or plane.  Or luxurious hotel room.  Whatever, just get out there.


Tribes- Seth Godin

I actually listened to this as an audiobook- great for the long, boring night drives.  As a side note, audiobooks along with podcasts are great ways to learn, decompress, and use driving time to and from work wisely.

Many of you reading this are probably at least a little familiar with Seth Godin.  If not, you should be.  He is so inspirational and I always feel like he can help us all make the world a better place.  Godin explains how in today’s global and technological society, rounding up a group of like-minded people into a “tribe” is easier than ever. Leaders are more critical than ever in this endeavor- and not just leading, but that connecting passionate “tribesmen” with one another is critical as well.  While I can’t quote this verbatim (it was an audiobook a week ago, after all), Godin’s remark that while leading too soon can be uncomfortable, leading too late can be disastrous for your cause.  Also, letting others take the lead at times can the wisest decision.  As counselors, we are often “yes men” (and women).  Learning to say, even just internally, that “no, I can’t lead this- I don’t have the (insert knowledge, energy, passion, etc.) to see it through” is one of the best things we can do for our other big causes, and for self-care.

What books have you read lately that bring connections in other areas of your life?

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What this blog IS and IS NOT…an unconventional welcome

Welcome to my new blog! You will quickly get to know me as someone who “gets to the point” in the kindest and clearest way possible. To get to said point, I’ll use the 5 W’s today to explain:

Who will enjoy my blog?

Those who enjoy ongoing dialogue, humor, random thoughts, and connections with knowing we all FAIL (forever are in learning) in both life and this profession at times. Thank goodness we have each other for support.

What will readers expect?

Readers (followers, I should say, because I know you already clicked that button over there, right?) should expect humor, honesty, and humility in the most formal way I can muster up that day. This blog will chronicle my life and how the school counseling profession fits into it. You’ll get to know me more personally than many other school counseling blogs.

This blog will NOT be one where I simply share resources, tech tips, etc. Believe me, I love these kind of blogs and you should check out my “Blogs I Follow” tab because they have helped me immensely, and I may share from time to time if it fits within the context. It’s just not the point-of-view I’m choosing. It’s always been important for me to connect to those in my life, even my students, by “being real”.

When will I post?

Basically, when I feel called to do so. For now, I’m not putting restraints on the whole daily, weekly, monthly thing. Let’s see how this evolves.

Where can readers contact me?

The easiest way to keep abreast of blog updates is to follow this blog, which you surely already did, or follow me on Twitter: @kelly_counselor.

Why did I decide to write this blog?

I’m been encouraged to write a blog by many friends and family for a while. Amazingly, some people out there think I’m pretty funny. Plus, I’ve always had epic fails with journaling so perhaps this can be a means of catharsis for me. It’s worth a shot!

Also, I love to post quotes and visuals. Lots and lots of quotes and visuals. Here I leave you with the first of many!

F.Scott Fitz