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Face Value

When I don’t write for a while, it’s usually for one of two reasons: either I’ve been entirely too busy, or I feel I have nothing to write about.

And neither of these reasons is entirely untrue for the current time lapse between posts, but there is another reason- I feel lately  I’ve been negative in my writing.

A few weeks ago, I had to experience an embarrassing moment with my administrator to come to terms that, really, I’ve been comparing my current school to my former school, and we all know where comparing apples to oranges gets us.

In previous posts, I’ve mentioned attempting to get to another level and come to terms with working in a dramatically different school culture and developmental level. And in the end, who ultimately helped me get to this place?  My husband.

Matt encourages me to often see things at face value and for what they are, not what I think they should be.  This is often tough for me to balance with having a passionate, idealistic, and advocating nature.  But, we all also know balance is good.

I think mentally saying, “this is my school, this is where I choose to be, this is where I am loyal, this is where I want to devote my knowledge and heart, and this is where I will put in the time, and where it is now is where it is now” has really helped give me peace.

When we sit and stew over what is or is not, we hurt ourselves.  When we complain about what doesn’t meet our expectations, we hurt ourselves.  And when yearn for something that never was, we hurt ourselves.  Does it hurt the adults you work with?  Nope.  Does it change the system in itself?  No.  Does not reaching your full potential because you’re “stuck” hurt the students you serve?  You betcha.

The next post won’t be so serious, I promise.




Cha-Cha-Cha Changes

It seems like everything is different at school this year.

I’ve welcomed the changes to the schedule, staff, etc. because they’ve for the most part have worked in my favor.  I’m allowed more freedom to do my “school counselor thang” and spend less time with fair-share duties and administrative tasks.

A lot of our teachers, though, are feeling the pressure of a tighter schedule, hectic curriculum pacing, and more loss of creativity.  In two weeks, some are already downright battle weary.  Especially the ones who have given so many years to this great profession.

This week I’ve thought a lot of family members who have told me, “get back to me in 20 or 30 years and tell how you feel about (insert current opinion).”

How will I feel about my life and my vocation in 20 or 30 years?  Will I have a growth mindset like I have now?  I hope so.  But I also know it’s easy in year five to be still riding the wave of current trends, when your own generation is dictating what is mainstream, not just in education but in society.

I’ve read a statistic that said half of all educators quit the profession within five years; I wonder how many that have been in the profession much longer feel like throwing their hands up and calling it a day.  But how many actually do?  Not really any.  The enticement of benefits, retirement and the innate love of children all have to come in play.

I suppose the best way to combat this worry is not to look into the future, but to focus on the present and be mindful of it.  I think that will be the best determination of whether I’ll say either “bring it on!” or “screw it!” 30 years from now.

I’m wishing you all a growth mindset as many of you are returning back to school this month.  Take care and listen to these wise words:

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